i remember having a discussion with a guy friend years ago about women choosing bad boys over guys-next-door types. apparently, the girl he's been courting for over a year chose this other suitor who's the exact opposite of him: has a motorcycle for a ride, smokes, drinks and a record of having a number of GFs at the same time. he was complaining how confusing women are...how we preferred to be dragged by those kind of men instead of being treated as princesses.

"mas gusto nyo ata ang bastos kesa ginagalang kayo eh!" hmmm...sometimes (grins)

anyways, i must admit i used to be like those women. most of my crushes way back my younger years were guys who wore tattered jeans, fitted shirts, with long hair, a bit of moustache and who seem to care less on how they look. we girls like to call them "manyak" looking guys (for obvious reasons...tee-hee). if you ask me why...maybe we think its more exciting to be with guys who doesnt really care about anything but having a good time. imagine riding a motorcycle with your hair flowing freely in the air (kewlness) or maybe having someone ala-robin padilla type on his knees for being madly in love with you (haba ng hair mo!). like men, we girls too love the challenge. but i guess as you grow old, you tend to mellow down. in my case, i'd prefer to have a life that's more stable...maybe a little less exciting but at least you'd be on the assured side. so i guess, it comes with age.

so okay, women can be guilty of this. but are you sure, only us can be condemned of such?

i know a friend who has been married for more than 2 years and eventually, her husband had an affair with a girl who apparently has a record of being a willing third party of other relationships. this girl loves going out on gimmicks, partying and well, attached men. my friend on the other hand is more of a homebody, being a mother to their son, she would prefer staying at home and looking after him. it was a shock when eventually, her husband totally chose the other girl over my friend. it's really frustrating...

i've encountered lots of stories about guys going gaga over a girl who doesnt even compare a bit to their present GFs or wives. if you ask them, its either they find the other woman more exciting or at least have something different. and it's sad to think that they choose these types of women over the girls they've spent more time with...went thru unimaginable trials and whose fidelity and sincerity have already been tested thru time.

so i guess it's not only us women...but also men who at some point in their lives would choose someone they just met who seem to be more attractive, more exciting and more fun to be with over that somebody who may not be as attractive and as exciting as those women...but will be more than willing to be with you no matter how un-exciting and un-attractive you'd become. and it's simply because it's LOVE.